Old Me Gone, New Me Activated

One thing I’m learning is that I’ll never get the ‘old me’ back. 

God transitioning you is Him saying, “Where I am taking you, those things of your past cannot go.” 

If you’re apart of The Society then you know that I am on this quest to find my new version of myself. Embracing the changes and exploring my new likes and preferences. 

 The thought of constantly losing a version of myself to a new version spooks me from time to time. I can name three instances in the past three years where I lost a version of myself I gotten used to and knew very well and had to relearn this new woman. Let’s tap into each time I’ve had to embrace the new me. 

Godly Purge 

   In September of 2023 I decided to surrender to God again and for real this time. I can say this was the biggest transition of my life ever. One of the hardest too. Everything I knew about myself, the person I showed up as, my dreams, my likes, my wants, my habits, me, all died. I went through a rough purging season. I lost my wardrobe, my friends, even my laptop. (Surprisingly I didn’t spiral after that) Anything I idolized, God got rid of. I quit smoking and pills, I quit partying, I no longer dressed secular. I didn’t even do my makeup for a while. It all stopped. Abruptly too. 

  This was the hardest part of my transition. Unlearning everything that once made the most sense to me to completely trusting the unknown. In this situation I knew the old me was gone, dead even and I have to figure out the new me. 

  I explored my wardrobe, a modest one. I explored my new likes and dislikes. Coming to terms with new Danielle wasn’t as easy as it may have seemed. I cried for days as I got delivered from demons and spirits. I felt alone but alone with God. I knew I had to trust Him. This transition was my hardest but my best. I went from a hard exterior, masculine energy, survival mode to becoming a soft girl in Christ. When I say soft, I mean even through the way I handled conflicts as well. Instead of fighting and cursing, I found myself quiet and praying. I’m telling you, a HARD change but a worthy one. The beautiful thing about this change is that it is on going. It’s 2025 and God is still changing me and the desires of my heart. I’m still fighting my flesh everyday just so I can be pure before God. Spotless and for the record it’s still so hard! 

2 Corinthians 5:17, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!"

Wife Life

 I never thought it would happen for me. You know the proposal, the ring, the wedding day, the life as a wife. I just thought it was out of my destiny. Well, God had another plan. When Jon and I started dating we immediately knew that this was it. I mean, we got married exactly four months to knowing each other. 

 One of my biggest transformation into wife life was becoming less hyper independent and allowing Jon to take lead. I had to learn how to stop doing things on my own time and include my husband in my plans. This didn’t mean he had to do everything with me but he had to know about these plans too. Transforming from being so independent, operating in my masculine energy had to come to an end immediately if I wanted my marriage to work. God convicted me of this so much during the earlier stages of marriage. Another hard one taking correction from my husband. Whew, Darlings when I tell you that was a battle on its own. It was so hard for me to because for so long I had the mentality that a man can’t tell me anything but here my husband is, correcting me gently. I think the first time he pointed out some things I needed to work on, I just cried. Not because I didn’t want to fix those things but because I realized two things, first was that I received what he said with no push back and second, the old me is gone. 

 Becoming a wife changed me not only for my marriage but for my own good. With proper guidance from Jon who is led by God, it allowed me to transform into a better wife, a better mommy and a better woman of God. 

Proverbs 27:17. “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” 

I’m A Mommy 

 Jon broke it down so beautifully to me the other day. He said, “Yes you’re a whole different woman now. You’ve had two babies and both times the old version of you died to create life.” I tell you what Darlings, I almost bawled because that was well said. He then mentioned how postpartum depression and the transition into this new woman goes hand in hand. Think about it like this, after you give birth you tend to find that something chemically shifted (I pray for the better). You start to find that things you once enjoyed doing sucks. A style you rocked before and was confident in sucks. The way you spoke before sucks. EVERYTHING BEFORE HAVING THIS BABY SUCKS! Now you’re left to figure it out and that’s hard but what I want you to do is give yourself some grace. 

 You’ve never been in this new season before. You have kids before but you’ve never been a mom to those kids and a new baby until now. That’s new for you and them. You’ve probably never even had kids before so figuring it out is a bit more challenging. Becoming a mother is a transformational experience for every woman whether it was an easy bounce back or not. 

*Quick Rant Break* So transformational that I’ve turned into a baby too. Marlee finally went down for a nap so I finally got to wash the dishes. Why did my baby sleep for .5 seconds and woke up… I JUST WANNA CLEAN MY DISHES. 

*Back To The Post* 

After a baby your hormones are out of wack and your chemical balance changes forever. Your body does not react how it did before you were pregnant neither does your mind. It’s honestly one of the most powerful things that can happen and it can go both ways. Either way, becoming a mommy changes you. That old version of you is gone and no matter how much you chase it, it won’t stick. Oh and trust me, society, not this one but society will NEVER let you forget that you got them kids at home. So might as well accept this change boo. 

The point is change happens. We can’t escape it. Let go of the old version of you and introduce the new version to yourself, learn her, embrace her and then introduce her to the world after! Rebranding is fun!!!! It’s healthy! 

With love, Dani